They say the summer after high school is the summer to test relationships.
Who are they to have a say in my life?
But they have a point.
I've never been one to keep up with friends, family, etc. I try... sometimes. As inconsiderate as that sounds, most times, if they don't make an effort to stay in my life, then they choose not to be anymore. I don't know if this applies to just me or everybody, but those people that I've lost touch with--I remember you. I remember our inside jokes, our laughs, our encounters. I remember lots about you, but when I reach for the phone to text you ( nobody calls these days... (; ) your number isn't there. Oh, that's right. I also have a very anal habit where I delete contacts from my phone. But even if you're still there, how would the conversation go?
"Hi, I haven't talked to you in forever! How's life?"
...
How would you answer that? "Life" is a very broad topic to explain.
Most times, people respond with a "Good!" or "Not bad!" but that doesn't say much either. Usually, that's as deep as the conversation goes. Then you realize you don't really know anything about this person anymore. There's no connection. You remember the old them. Who are they now? The person whom you tried to contact is but a shadow. Is this person important enough to you that you meet this new identity in an attempt to summon back the old memory?
I know for certain some people are.
& some are just lost with my memory.
On a side note, or not, I remember a friend in high school. We had a lots of mutual friends and a few classes in common. Upon discovery that we would not have the same class the next year, we made a pact to write each other notes and give them to each other whenever possible. We kept this up daily at first. Then slowly, the notes came... weekly. Then monthly. Then not at all. At first, it was "studying" and "I forgot" but then it just became excuses and soon enough, we realized our connection wasn't there anymore. We didn't have much in common and we weren't going to force the friendship. So now we're acquaintances. We still saw each other, still share the same mutual friends, but we never talked anymore because there wasn't anything to talk about. Our plans after school, our promises to each other--just words.
So, I guess, if you're still in my life today, you must be pretty important to me.
Consider that an accomplishment? xD